Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Great Aunt Mildred, Let's Just Eat Turkey and Talk about Something Else

   In the car on the way home for Thanksgiving break, I got the chance to talk to my cousin Jim, on the phone; one of my aunts drove all the way from High Point, North Carolina to Blacksburg, Virginia to pick him up! Jim is an engineering graduate student at Virginia Tech, and he was at my aunt’s house watching TV when I called. He is very dry and doesn't really speak unless spoken to, more out of disinterest than anything else. However, we have pretty good conversations. Having little news to actually tell him, I mentioned one of my assignments for the break. I said to him, over the phone, “The prompt is, I have this crazy Great Aunt Mildred who’s cornered me into answering this question: so, what is your major and what are you going to do with it?”
“Sounds like an interesting subject,” he replied.  
My mom was driving, and I was sitting next to her, so of course she overheard my half of the conversation, and wanted to input her opinion on the matter. After I hung up, we talked about her choice to become an engineer. She never changed her major, mainly because the school she attended had laid out the career path for her. Though she had not known what being an engineer entailed, she knew from the get-go that she wanted to be a chemical engineering major. She knows that I am not doing well in chemistry, and she doesn’t care. She said to me, “You want to be an English, French, Art major? I can see that. It fits you. What you are going to do with that major, though, is what I guess you are supposed to figure out. If you wanted to pair it, business is pretty popular, and it’s practical… but you don’t necessarily have to get a business degree. I wonder what other things you can do with a French major.”
After a few hours, my mom and I got home, ate dinner, lounged around for a bit, and watched The Voice together. It is my mom’s favorite show. Dad changed the channel after the show was over, and Mom announced that she was going to bed. However, before she went to bed, she did that annoying, useless thing that everyone who wants to know what my major is and what I am going to do with it does: she starts making suggestions. In fact, she made a point, as she was leaving the room, to get out The Book of Majors, a 1,300-page College Board encyclopedia whose index is longer than its content, and tried to hand it to me. “Mom,” I groaned, “Stop.” She replied excitedly, “Honey, just look at it! You might find some good career paths in this book for the majors you’re looking at.”
I haven’t yet looked at the book she pulled out for me. I don’t really want to. I didn’t touch it all week. There are so few options, and yet so many options. It is more overwhelming than going shopping, or applying to colleges. Too much to think about. 

The next day, my cousin Jim came over, and he and I went for a walk on Thanksgiving Day. While we were walking, Jim reminded me about that assignment that I had brought up, and what I was going to say to Great Aunt Mildred, if we had one, on Friday. Friday is when my family really celebrates Thanksgiving; everyone celebrates with the other side of the family on Thursday, and then my mom’s family’s Thanksgiving takes place the day after. I asked Jim if he had decided on a major, and what he wanted to do with it. I immediately realized that the first part of my question was kind of a dumb thing to ask, seeing as Jim was a grad student, but he answered me anyway.
“Well, obviously engineering is what I’m majoring in. As for what I’m going to do with it, well, I don’t know that yet... What about you? Maybe you should come up with some possible major for crazy Great Aunt Mildred.”
“Hmm… Let’s come up with the wackiest combination possible. Maybe I should get a degree in marine biology, and one in physical therapy, with a minor in Southern folklore.”
“So… you’re going to give whales physical therapy and tell them folk tales?” 
I laughed. “I guess so! They might not like Southern folklore very much, though… They’ll probably try to thwack me with their tails. With their whale tails. They probably like whale tales better anyway. Too bad that I won’t have covered that in my degree.”
It was either that or a combination of women’s studies and astrophysics. Anything to confuse the heck out of Great Aunt Millie dearest. How in the world could you combine women’s studies and astrophysics? As a job? Come on. I knew I was avoiding the question by coming up with these ridiculous responses, but it wasn’t something I thought I was ready to answer. Until now, my education has been really broad. How could I possibly narrow down what I want to do with my life to one or two degrees, and a job to accompany it? In that respect, the question “What is your major, and what do you plan to do with it?” is somewhat unfair. Having been in college for a semester now, I can at least say what I don’t want to do: biology. Music theory. Geology. Yuck.
Thanksgiving was a fairly boring day. Since there was nothing to do until Friday, in addition to the walk on Thanksgiving, I went for a run. I ran by myself for most of the run, so, for once, I decided to listen to some podcasts while I was running. Listening to Freakonomics Radio talk about various studies that tested the best ways to alleviate poverty made me remember just how much I love public radio, and how infrequently I listen to it now that I have no car in which to listen to it and no extra time anyway. It also reminded me that I want to do something important and meaningful, with both my college career and anything beyond it. Maybe I should pursue a career in communications or reporting on the radio.

Perhaps one of my favorite radio shows on NPR, aside from Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me! and A Prairie Home Companion
Here's the link to Freakonomics Radio online: http://freakonomics.com/tag/freakonomics-podcast/

Even then, with this goal in mind, how would I explain to my relatives that I wanted to pursue a degree in communications and become a radio host, having never explicitly expressed any interest in this nor making any attempt to produce podcasts or videos? Would they understand that, even though I had never done it before, never tried, that it could be a good fit for me? Up to this point, my goals have been relatively short-term. I know I want to study abroad, possibly twice, and I want to make some sort of difference. That’s a vague thing to say, “I want to make a difference,” but I think it is important to stay updated on current events, and pose new solutions to old problems. I want the work I do to be not only enjoyable but meaningful. If I could work for NPR, I would be a very happy person. Not only would I be informing people of current events and issues, but I would be hearing myself talk. I love hearing myself talk, and I love hearing intelligent, thought-provoking words coming out my mouth. I just have to be brave enough to break away from what I have always done and try something new.
On the Friday after Thanksgiving, I was surprised to find that my relatives did not care what my major was going to be, or what I was going to do with it. Nothing about the future at all! We chatted and played card games, ate turkey, and watched The Incredibles for the umpteenth time. It was fun. This would have been one of those holidays, I guess, that "Great Aunt Mildred couldn't make it because she was spending time with her son's in-laws," so I wouldn't have had to worry about facing her. I wouldn't have to face myself.
 The only questions my relatives asked me about college were whether I was enjoying myself, and what my favorite class was.  “Yes” and “English or French” were my go-to answers. “Not Chemistry.”
Me and my cousin studying in the living room.

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